Disentangling Desire

“I’m not available for that”, he said. We were sitting in his car outside my apartment, talking about desire. What I wanted, and what he wanted (or in this case didn’t). We’d been dating for a few months, and I could feel the longing in me growing - f... Read more

Special Graduation

In a time of polarization and divisiveness, plus the on-going crises of fires, economic and racial injustice, and pandemic, there are bright rays of hope - people building a future of respect, dignity, generosity, love and understanding in a thous... Read more

No Form – Just Thank You

I changed five nouns in this poem for us, for now: Thanks, from W. S. Merwin. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t mind a bit. It reminds me of Zen teacher Yvonne Rand’s last audible words before she passed away Wednesday evening: “No form - Just thank you” L... Read more

Listening with the EAR

Perhaps like many of you, I grew up in a family that could have benefited from having an EAR Council to hear grievances, but did not. Our InsightLA family is fortunate to have a group of elders dedicated to listening with empathy and compassion, a... Read more

Farewell, Yvonne

Monday I learned that Yvonne Rand, one of my teachers in this life, has entered hospice to do her dying. An accomplished Soto Zen priest, Yvonne came to teach with me at InsightLA in the early days. Yvonne has lived a life that has given so much to so... Read more

A Treasure, Like Kelp

The ocean has been cold again this week, good weather for the kelp! Did you know that in in ideal conditions kelp can grow from 12 inches to 18 inches in one day? Did you know kelp stores carbon as efficiently as tropical rainforests? The kelp in the ... Read more

The Dalai Lama’s Koan

Decades ago in the 70’s, before the Dalai Lama became famous, his smiling face was on the cover of a newspaper called The Snow Lion. The quote under his photo struck me so powerfully that I cut out the cover page and stuck it on a kitchen cupboard whe... Read more

Learning How to Be Together

When I was seven years old, I started an organization called the California Girls’ Club. The club’s vision was mainly that I would be President of it. I made my best friend Sarah VP, and promptly decided our three other friends had to apply to join. A... Read more

Can this be an inflection point?

One quote that deeply comforted me when I visited the Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial at the National Mall in Washington, D.C. was, “We shall overcome because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.”  Inspiring words engra... Read more

Metta Prayers

This is a dynamic list of prayers that will never remain the same.  The prayers continuously change-evolve based on whatever is needed at the moment. I invite you to breath in, soften, marinate, consume, those prayers that feel right for you.  Praye... Read more